It is often hard to accomplish things when we feel we are alone. We may use this as an excuse not to attempt things. I spent several years of my life not doing the things I wanted and telling myself that I was waiting to meet someone that I could share them with.

I now realize that I was guilty of trying to find my satisfaction in someone else. I was simply giving in to my fears and using my being alone as an excuse. There is an art to relationships. It is said that love is two becoming one while remaining two.

It is also said that relationships are give and take. I submit that the perfect relationship is about giving. Not 50/50 but 100/100. The joy comes from doing what you can to make the other happy. Many will think that means giving up something, but it does not.

In the Ultimate Healthy Lifestyle we know that what you receive by giving is far more than the giving itself. The most successful people are those who give the most.

Having someone who has your best interests at heart makes life so much easier. Marriage is like heaven when it works and like hell when it does not. All relationship can be compared to marriage on some level.

Connecting with people who have the same or similar goals can make the accomplishment of those goals easier. Exercising with another makes it easier for both. They motivate each other and makes the other accountable. It is much harder to disappoint someone else than one’s self. Joining force creates a sense of responsibility.

For this to be it is not necessary that both do the same exercises only to work out at the same time or the same place. Of course if you are doing the same exercises it makes it all that much better. This principle can be used to work on any area of one’s life. By joining force with someone who has the same desires and goals make life easier for both.

The concept of combining force with someone to exercise with is the same as combining force with a spouse or loved one. All relationships must contain certain basic ingredients. Honesty is the most important. Openness is another, to the degree of what is being worked on.

The truth is that you are never really alone. The greatest relationship has to be with oneself. Once you have achieved balance with yourself all other relationships are easy. If you are at peace with yourself you do not need someone else to motivate you or make you accountable, you just are.

With that accountability within self it becomes second nature to achieve success in the way that is for you. It is at this point that you become the motivator of others and are able to be of service.

TODAY’S TIP: Take an honest look at your relationships. Determine which ones are true and based on love and respect. Also determine which are for dependency or some other reason that feeds your weaknesses.

How is your relationship with self?

When we finish going to school many consider themselves educated. However our education does not stop at that point. We continue to learn, but what we do with that learning is most important.

After our formal schooling many of us fall into a rut. The rut of everyday living. We start a career or get a job and we stop consciously educating ourselves, or we narrow our outlook so we miss much of life that is around us.

Our purpose here on earth is to learn and grow. We must view the search for knowledge as a lifelong endeavor. In the Ultimate Healthy Lifestyle we realize that we must continue to search and extend ourselves in the quest for knowledge.

We are attempting to become whole human beings and we cannot afford to only pay attention to part of ourselves.

I am sure you have heard the saying, “what you don’t know cannot hurt you.” Well I am here tell you that it is not so. What you don’t know can hurt you. I was reminded of that just today. A friend had surgery last week for prostrate cancer. He told me that he had symptoms long before he went to the doctor. He was too busy and did not have the time to get checked out. This was with people around him telling him he should get a check up.

If he had the knowledge of his body he might not have had to go through surgery. A part of knowledge is being aware of and interpreting the information around us. In my friends case it was what his body was trying to tell him.

The gathering of knowledge in and of itself is not very valuable. You must do something with that knowledge for it to be useful. This brings another point to mind. Many people gather knowledge and just let it sit in their mind. This is something that could be used to better life.

It is said that the highest form of knowledge is knowing one’s self. This is our ultimate quest, to rediscover who we are. This has been hidden from us at birth when the veil is lowered. After that there is always that nagging thought in the back of our mind that we are missing something.

As we gather knowledge we should remember that above all else we seek to peal back the layers of self. To get back to that spiritual entity that lies just beneath the surface of our consciousness. The more we discover ourselves, the more power we uncover.

The bible says that man has dominion over all of creation. This is because we are the only living thing on earth with the power of choice and will. The word dominion has been corrupted to mean mastery, with some thinking that it means that the earth was created for man.

I have never been able to understand how anyone would think this since the earth was created millions of years before man even appeared on it. In truth dominion means caretaker. It is our responsibility to appreciate and take care of the earth. We have not done a very good job so far.

However as more of us come to that realization and take responsibility for our lives the better the world is taken care of. Strive to become the best Human Being possible and you are fulfilling your purpose.

TODAY’S TIP: Take time daily to look around you and contemplate the depth of things both natural and man made. Find love in all things.

What have you learned today?

Do you have a purpose or do you just live one day at a time? It has been shown that people with a purpose live longer and experience more joy and happiness. So, how does one discover their purpose?

Our main purpose is the same for all. It is to be of service and work to improve life here on earth. The expression of that service is unique to the individual. Some are meant to change the world and some are meant to help a single person.

The magnitude of one’s purpose is of no importance. They are all of equal value as everything is connected and we are each a part of the whole. Helping one person starts a chain of actions and events that may very well end in changing the world.

People often ask, “What is my purpose or my mission?” We do not have to worry about what our purpose is. We only have to live our lives with love and an attitude of giving. Doing for and helping others as the opportunity arises is fulfilling our purpose.

It is said that the full scope of our purpose is incomprehensible to the human mind. To know our purpose in detail is to know the meaning of life in detail. This of course we can not know. I have often thought that when the meaning of life becomes known to us, it will be something far, far from what we have been able to discern.

The best that we can do is live with the attitude that we will become the best human beings possible. That we will work to improve the quality of our lives, thereby improving the quality of life on planet Earth.

We must share ourselves with others whenever possible. Help those who are less fortunate than we. Add to life whenever we can and take as little from life as we can.

We have heard it asked, “Am I my brother’s keeper?” The answer is, “Yes, if my brother needs keeping.”

However, with this attitude we must be careful and try to make sure our actions are meaningful. We need to remember that we can not help someone unless they want to be helped. To force our help on others is wasted effort.

The best and most effect way we can be of service is to be the role model. It is for this reason that we must always take care of ourselves first. By keeping ourselves strong and seriously working on improving ourselves we have more to give to others at less cost to ourselves.

There is an art to being selfish. An art that we all need to learn and practice.

As long as we live our lives in the spirit of love, gratitude and giving we will fulfill our purpose.

TODAY’S TIP: Make a habit of giving something to someone each day. It need not be something material. It could just be a word of encouragement to someone who is down. Remember is all comes back.

Is giving your purpose?

You are the center of your universe. You decide what type of world your universe will be. It relates to “what you give out is what you get back.” Are you living in the type of world you want to live in?

If you are not living in the type of world you want to live in, why not? We are on this planet to learn and experience. We choose our experiences with the choices we make each day. With each decision we are faced with many different possibilities. It is up to us to choose the one that will lead us in the direction we want to go.

In the Ultimate Healthy Lifestyle we realize that the choices we make today will be reflected in our tomorrows. So how do we make the best possible choices?

The main way we make the best choices is to re-connect with our true self or spirit. We must believe that our Universe will take care of us and get in touch with that inner guidance. That means getting out of our own way.

We have to transcend our ego and lower mind. In the Ultimate Healthy Lifestyle we realize that in  listening to our inner guidance there are two voices within us.

When we ask ourselves for guidance the first voice we hear will give us a thousand reasons for or against something. The reasons will mostly seem logical. However this is the voice of ego and cannot be trusted. It wants to control the situation and will mislead you if that is what it takes to maintain control.

When you learn to silence that voice you will hear a tiny little voice. This voice will answer questions directly with no long explanations. This is the voice of true spirit. This voice when followed will always work for you best good.

When getting in touch with the voice of spirit we must accept that the answers we are given will not always seem logical. If we have the courage to follow the advice given we will find that all will work out. It may not work out as we would like it but it will always be for our highest good.

Another thing that will help us make the best choices is to use the world around us. We are mirrors for each other. The things we see in others are things that are in ourselves. If we dislike something in another it tells us that there is a need to address that in ourselves.

We are responsible for our lives and our lives only. When we address that which we see in others in ourselves it disappears in the other. At least in your world.

Work on perfecting self and you work on perfecting the world. Give love and you get love. This is how to live a life of fulfillment and growth. It is your choice.

TODAY’S TIP: Use meditation to get in touch with that tiny voice of spirit. Then follow your heart.

Can you hear it?

Relationships are about sharing. Sharing life, love and everything else that we are experiencing. It is said that love is that which makes two people one and yet remain two.

There is an art to successful relationships. The art of being able to interact with another and still allow them the space to be who they are. The purpose of relationships is not to make the other a clone of yourself. Each person has different thoughts, likes and dislikes. The art is being able to enjoy the things that you have in common and allowing the other to enjoy the things they like which is not in common.

We each have strengths and weaknesses. We are better able to see the weakness of others before we see them in ourselves. But we cannot see something in others that is not in ourselves. So one of the things we want to remember is that we are mirror images of each other. This means the things we dislike in our mate are things which we ourselves are guilty of.

As a part of the ultimate healthy lifestyle I teach a technique called, “combined force” for couples. It simple means combining your energies working for the good of both. This means working together on such mutual interests as finances, common goals, and increased awareness and growth.

It also means giving each other space to enjoy the things that are not common to both. One may enjoy golf while the other does not. One may like to get out into the countryside and the other does not. Each should have the freedom to do the things they choose to do without limitation.

If one does something that the other is dead set against perhaps it is time to rethink the relationship. Each should be able live their life in any way they choose as long as it does not interfere with another living their life as they choose.

I encourage couples to sit down at least once a week and have a family meeting. It there are kids i suggest that they be apart of that meeting. Start the meeting with each member of the family having the opportunity to express their feelings and thoughts about what has happened during that week.

First tell the others what you appreciate about them and recount at least one thing that they have done that week that you can thank them for. Then Tell what happened that you were not altogether pleased about. When you are on the receiving end of the criticism be gracious and do not allow pride or ego to turn it negative. These meetings are for learning and growing closer together.

End the meeting by projecting into the next week and discuss ways of improving and working towards common goals. You also want to discuss long term goals, if not every meeting then every third or fourth meeting.

Also I encourage everyone to practice meditation and for couples that they meditate twice daily, once together and once alone.

TODAY’S TIP: Look in the mirror several times a day. Look into your eyes and tell yourself that you love you and mean it. You can only love another as much as you love yourself.

Are you ready for love?

As the saying goes, everyone needs someone. In truth we are all connected but we live our lives in separation.One of the greatest gifts in life is to have someone to share our life with.

We look around us and it seems that it is a rare thing for someone to have a relationship that truly fulfills them. In our society over 50% of marriages end in divorce. Most people seem to float from one relationship to another without any idea of what it takes to have a successful one.

Many look at love as, “what can love do for me,” not “what can my love do for others.” We love others as long as they love us or as long as they make us feel good. Then when the relationship ends, more often than not, it ends in anger or lost of love.

We seem to have a very distorted view of love. We say, the love died. If the love was real it cannot die. Eric Fromm puts it best when he said, in his book “The Art of Loving,” ” a mother cannot love her child unless she loves all children” and ” a man cannot love a woman unless he loves all women.”

There is no casual love and family love and intimate love. There is only one love and it is the same for everyone. The only difference is the intensity of the energy of love that is shared between two people. If one truly loves, they love everyone and everything.

One of the reason we are on this planet is to learn unconditional love. Unconditional love means that we love regardless of what we get from it or what others are doing. Unconditional love means loving whether you are with them or not.

We may also need to look at relationships different. Our relationships are learning, growing experiences. All relationships are not meant to be until death do us part. At least not until you find that lifelong partner. You may have to go through more than one relationship to get to that one.

As long as we are learning and growing together the relationship works, when this is no longer the case it may be time to go our separate ways. This can be done with the love intact. We then become friends.

In the ultimate healthy lifestyle we realize that all our relationships, be they friendships, intimate or otherwise, are helping us grow and evolve. We realize that the most important aspect of our relationship and life itself is unconditional love for others, ourselves and the universe.

In the ultimate healthy lifestyle we know that we can release relationships when they no longer serve us with love and respect for the other. We realize that to do so is the loving thing to do and that we grow stronger.

Tomorrow we will talk about ways to get the most out of a relationship and make it work for the good of all concerned.

TODAY’S TIP: Do not be afraid to use the word love. Tell those you care about that you love them.This will add to their life and yours.

Do you understand love?

How many of us see ourselves as we really are? We are many people rolled into one. We see ourselves in one way and each other person has their own image of us, depending on our interactions.

How we see ourselves is one of the strongest forces at work in our lives. Many of us have been scarred emotionally and mentally as we grew up. The scars range from minor to devastating.

Some were abused by a spouse or parents. This can disable us for a good part of our life. Some never get over it. They remain victims all their lives.

Our society has made it all right to be a victim. How long should it last? When is the time to take control over one’s life and start living a positive and productive life.

Some were simply talked down to or told they were worthless. Even this can be difficult to overcome. Sometimes we don’t realize the devastation that was caused by well meaning parents and peers.

Whatever the case and where ever you are is all right. It simply becomes necessary to look within with openness and honesty. Feel the pain and deep buried hurt. Accept it and set your intention to rise above it and overcome it.

Recognize who you are. Recognize your power. As a child you did not have control, but as an adult you do. You just need to take back your power.

You do this by acknowledging that you are a divine human being and as such  have the right to anything that is apart of this physical world. All you have to do is desire it and be willing to do what is necessary to achieve it.

Look into the mirror, deep into your eyes, to your soul and see the things buried there that have keep you from living your life to the fullest.

Some teach that you must go back to the source of the pain before you can overcome it. This is not necessary, you only have to release it, bless it and forgive those involved. Then don’t forget to forgive yourself.

The most important thing is for you to feel good. Feel good about yourself, about life and about the world. Do what you must to make that your reality.

Love yourself. You deserve it simply by being here. There is no one more important than you. The more you love yourself, the more you are capable of loving someone else.

TODAY’S TIP: Do practice random acts of kindness. The more you do the more you can appreciate your life.

How will you see yourself tomorrow?

How did your new year start? Have you turned over a new leaf? I hope you are not one of those who made New Year’s Resolutions and can feel them start to weaken.

I hope you enjoyed your holidays. We look forward to them, but sometimes we are glad when they are over. Anyway, it is time to get back to work. Are you ready?

Today I would like to talk about action. After the movie “The Secret” came out some people were talking about the missing piece. The Secret discussed the Law of Attraction but some felt that it did not cover all of the parts. They felt that something was left out.

That something was action. In other words you can go through all the steps of the Law of Attraction and have nothing happen. Because of the way the material was presented, many thought that they only had to ask and it would be given to them as if by magic.

They thought that they did not have to do anything. That their desires would materialize out of thin air or fall from the sky. Well as the bible says, “God helps those who help themselves.” This requires action.

Action may take many forms.The main action may be clearing your mind to be more receptive to the laws of the Universe. This plays to the other law that goes hand in hand with the Law of Attraction.

The law of allowing must be practiced along with attraction in order for manifestation to happen. Opening up to allowing means, as it has sometimes been stated, “becoming one with the universe.”

Remember that everything is energy and energy travels as vibrations. For anything to happen energy must travel in a circle and it must flow smoothly. We put obstacles in the way of that happening with our states of consciousness.

When we feel unworthy or undeserving; when we harbor guilt or anger, jealousy or hate, these feeling get in the way of the flow of Universal energy. This is because the foundation of Universal Energy is love.

To truly be able to practice the Law of Attraction you must have come to terms with life and your place in it. You are here to experience and enjoy your physical journey through life. To do this you must love life, love self and love everything in life. You must be grateful for having the opportunity to live and appreciate each day.

Love is the highest vibration available to us and will allow all other vibrations to move freely through our personal Universe. It is with love that we can attract anything that we desire in our lives.

TODAY’S TIP: Do it today. Practice love and compassion. Have the courage to open up to the goodness of life.

How much do you appreciate?

This week will be devoted to healing, self healing to be specific. It is important to understand that all healing is self healing.

Doctors do not heal, healers do not heal, medicines do not heal. Only you can heal you.

In order to heal several things must be in place. The first is the desire to be healed. Many people would sat that everyone who is sick has the desire to be healed, but that is not so. Even some who think that they want to be healed do not.

Let me explain. A person can think in their mind that they want to be healed but in their subconscious they think that they do not deserve to be healed. Some people are using their sickness to punish themselves for some wrong committed in their past. These wrongs may be real or imagined.

The power to heal lies in the mind of the beholder. Mainstream medicine will tell you that some diseases cannot be healed. Yet we see them cured everyday. Medicine will say, well those are miracles.

It depends on how you look at miracles. Miracles happen every day. You will have miracles in your life if you believe in them. If you believe you can be healed, you can be healed.

First we need to understand why we get sick. As Divine beings there is no reason that we should get sick. We manifest our sicknesses for a reason. They represent a lesson that we need to learn.

By the time a sickness starts to show physical symptoms it may have been many years in the making. All illness begin as either emotional or mental dis-ease.  If the problem is not dealt with it festers and grows until it becomes a physical illness.

The only thing a doctor or healer can do is help you to heal yourself, if you are ready to be healed. Here is an example of how it is different for each of us.

Ten people go to the doctor with the same symptoms. The doctor prescribes the same thing to each of them The results will differ. Some will be healed completely, some partially, and some will not feel any effect from the prescription. The difference is in the mind of the beholder.

Your sickness is the result of some emotion or mental dis-ease that you have not dealt with. This is why when you go to the doctor and the symptoms are cured often the illness will return. Mainstream medicine treats symptoms, but rarely the causes.

You have the power to heal yourself. First you must love yourself, then you must forgive yourself and let go of the memories of the past that are causing the symptoms.

You must believe that you are worthy to be well and enjoy the fruits that life has to offer.

There is an expanded awareness happening that health is a part of our heritage and we are meant to be healthy and happy in our lives.

TODAY’S TIP: The power of healing is taking a giant leap forward. Just take a look at this: Zero Field energy.

Are you ready to heal?

We end this week with an article on how unconditional love can transform your life.

Unconditional Love – The Transforming Power of Unconditional Love By Alicia Isaacs

You’ve heard the words “I love you” so many times that it seems that the deep meaning of it has become superficial in its usage. But there’s love that is profound, constant and unconditional and it is from and out of this love that we have emerged. We’ve come from the heart of love and in remaining connected to the Source is where we find our life and sustenance.

Allow the fire of perfect love to radiate and burn within your inner being. Let it consume your soul, transform your mind and express itself through your body through focused thought and intention. It has always been there as a part of you and you begin to experience it when you are consciously aware of the connection to Love’s existence and turn full face towards Love in order to experience the warmth.

If this love is a part of us why then is it not more evidenced in our world? If you’ve ever observed an infant – they do everything instinctively. You don’t need to tell an infant when it’s time to begin to roll over or learn to crawl or walk. Neither do you have to educate them about love. They love you unconditionally. They quickly forgive and never hold a grudge. But as they continue to grow they’re reconditioned by society’s way of thinking, no longer the innocence of love – then they begin to adapt and lose the true essence of their original heritage.

We were all there at one point but have drawn away and/or moved away from living a life of true love. We’ve collected a lot of debris of judgment, anger, resentment, bitterness and unforgiveness that have blocked our communication with our Source of Love and have therefore stopped the flow of Love from entering our lives. We’ve now adapted to a superficial love that says, “I love you if you love me. I love you because you’re cute or I love you because you are rich, or because you make me feel so good inside.”

True love goes way beyond these conditions and says, “I love you because I love you and nothing can change that. I love you in spite of and not because of.” We have moved so far away from what is truth that the truth we embrace is so marred by the debris in our lives that when true unconditional love comes it’s hardly recognizable because we’ve grown used to the false identity and definition of love.

A call to return to love

It’s time that we return to the Source of Love that we may be transformed in the presence of Love and Love’s embrace.

How do you experience Love?

You experience this power because you desire it, you long for it, you summon it and Love comes to you. When you move away from it, you move away from the Source of the fire, the heat and passion of love and you begin to feel cold. Many people are cold. Some experience spurts of warmth but they never come close enough to experience the intensity and passion of Divine love. When you have, there is still much more to experience. When you come to that place where you remain in the intensity of love, you experience new levels of ecstasy you never thought possible.

Experience the Ultimate Love

It’s called the setting of yourself aside to surrender to and experience ultimate love. It satisfies, it thrills, it’s joy fulfillment, it’s deep inner peace. It’s the wanting or needing of nothing else – the satisfaction of your entire being.

Have you ever experienced a love so deep it burns to the core of your inner being? It’s like walking around with an inner campfire but never being consumed by it. It saturates your being to the point you need to take a deep breath so you can breathe or you ask for a second just so you can catch your breath? Come take a journey with me to the depths of your soul and experience the true flames of love.

Experience Love like you’ve never known, peace and joy in abundance and satisfaction unlimited. Once you’ve tasted, you’ll always desire to return, but why leave? You could remain there – you could live there and experience new levels of ecstasy in its purity.

To learn more simple doable step-by-step strategies, that will get you from where you are to where you want to be and experience a transformed life, I invite you to claim your free ebook Changing Inside Out Now! The Power of Unconditional Love and get access to regular life-changing strategies at http://www.changinginsideoutnow.com.

From Alicia Isaacs – Changing Inside Out Now!

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TODAY’S TIP: Do not give or accept anything less than the best life has to offer, unconditional love.

Will you love unconditionally?