We end the week with another article on the importance of self respect and some tips on how to improve your respect for self.

The Significance of Self-Respect – Three Simple Steps to Gain Self-Respect By Mary Tucker

We all long for love, approval and respect from those whom surround us. In all significant areas of lives, career, home, family, primary relationship, spirituality, finances and as a parent, just to name a few, we consciously and unconsciously seek respect and acceptance from the outside world. However, if we take a closer look, we will see that this is not the respect and approval that matters in the long run. What ultimately matters is that we respect and approve of ourselves.

Three simple steps can support you in understanding the significance of developing and maintaining self-respect.

1. Admit that you do not respect yourself.

This first step tells us to be honest with ourselves and admit the ways that we disrespect ourselves. There are many ways we can do this. For example:

Do you have any habits that you know are not in your best interest, like smoking or abusing drugs or alcohol?

Do you over eat and create an unhealthy body? Do you carry around anger that may lurk just below the surface, waiting to erupt at the slightest provocation?

Do you come home from work exhausted and ignore you family.

Do you totally ignore your spirituality, that part of you that has always been with you?

Do you routinely beat yourself up with negative internal dialog?

If you answered yes to any one of these questions, you are exhibiting a lack of self respect. Acknowledgment without making yourself bad or wrong is the first step. As the saying goes, we can’t fix what we don’t acknowledge.

2. Understand what self-respect is.

We’ve looked at ways we might disrespect ourselves in step one. Now, let’s look at what a shift in thinking might be. Self-respect, literally interpreted means to respect one’s self. And this is easier said than done. After getting honest with yourself about the ways you practice personal disrespect, you’ve cleared the path for discovery of what self-respect really looks like for you.

Ask yourself what really matters to you within yourself. Who and what do you desire to be for yourself, not others. Journal about that.

What are ten things you think are good about you? Think in terms of qualities here, such as kindness, compassion, creativity.

What are you willing to give up in your current behavior and perspective in order to truly respect yourself?

3. Embrace what is right about you

When you embrace what is right about you,you acknowledge that you value these qualities. While most of us have been taught one way or another that is is arrogant to think of our strengths, to embrace them and live them, I want to assert that this is a lie. That’s right. It’s not true. Not only is it untrue, it keeps you locked in the pattern of personal disrespect.

Fear of becoming arrogant or “too big for our britches” has kept us playing small. Fear of being asked, “who do you think you are?” when we assert ourselves keeps us stuck. The more important question is “who do I think I’m not?”

When we focus on what we are not, that’s exactly what we manifest…nothing great. We create what we put our energy into and ultimately, we are responsible for every aspect of our current reality and we always have the power to move beyond it, and to create the life of our dreams. But before we can do that, we have to feel that we deserve it. When we look for what is right about ourselves, we begin the shift toward growth and living our best life. And when we are living our best life, we are practicing self-respect.

Mary Tucker is the owner and founder of the Coaching firm, Cultivate Your Life. She teaches executives and professionals how to create wealth for their company without losing their soul. She is a the author of numerous newspaper and magazine articles on personal growth, conscious leadership and successful living. Want more? Go to http://www.cultivateyourlife.com.

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TODAY’S TIP: Walk with your head held high and remember who you are and that you deserve respect from self and others.

Are you satisfied with the respect you receive?

You can only show respect to others if you respect yourself and you will get respect from others only if you respect yourself. Here are some thoughts.

Self-Respect – Six Examples of How Learning to Respect Yourself Attracts Respect From Others By Michelle Enis Vasquez

Too many people expect to be respected by others when they don’t act respectfully themselves. Once you learn to respect yourself, you will attract respect from others. Here are some guidelines for learning self-respect.

“I want him to respect me.”

“If people respect me, I’ll respect them.”

“My kids should respect me (it doesn’t matter how I treat them).”

If you don’t respect yourself, you’ll never respect others.

Self-Respecting People

1. Think about how their behavior affects the people around them

2. Consider what they say before blurting out hurtful words

3. Understand the Golden Rule according to Eugene Brown, LPC (my former supervisor and mentor): Do unto others as they need to be done unto

4. Seek first to understand, then to be understood (Stephen Covey, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People)

5. Take responsibility for their behavior

6. Let go of the need to hold grudges

Let’s look at these six ideas about self-respect:

1. Think about how their behavior effects the people around them

Self-respecting people realize that they don’t live in a vacuum; their behavior affects others. They think about what they do and ask themselves, “How will my doing ________ affect the people I care about/my coworkers/others I come in contact with?” They weigh the consequences carefully before acting.

2. Consider what they say before blurting out hurtful words

When self-respecting people engage in disagreements with others, they act diplomatically. Yes, they experience anger just like the rest of us, but they choose their responses instead of allowing a knee-jerk reaction to determine what happens next. They realize that hurtful words won’t help their partner understand what is wrong and will harm the relationship.

3. Understand the Golden Rule according to Eugene Brown, LPC (my former supervisor and mentor): Do unto others as they need to be done unto

This ties into understanding that their behavior impacts others. They realize that just because they would like something done a certain way, that others may not agree. They take the time to learn how others need to be treated, rather than just using a “one size fits all” approach.

4. Seek first to understand, then to be understood (Stephen Covey, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People)

Self-respecting people understand the value of active listening. They know that if people feel understood, then they are more likely to be willing to listen to another person’s point of view. Self-respecting people do not try to push their views on others to be understood first. They are willing to work to earn the other person’s respect and trust.

5. Take responsibility for their behavior

This means they are willing to admit when they are wrong. They feel comfortable with themselves and don’t feel threatened if they make a mistake. Their ego isn’t tied up in always needing to be right. This also means that the self-respecting person lets others be responsible for their behavior, letting go of the need to control them or change them.

6. Let go of the need to hold grudges

Self-respecting people realize that when they hold a grudge, they keep themselves locked into anger and resentment. They know they will keep growing as a person when they allow others to be responsible for their behavior instead of holding a grudge to try to make others change.

If you are worried about the state of your relationship, I want to help. Contact me to schedule a complementary Get Acquainted session. I encourage you to get my free report, “Want to Improve your Marriage? Get Rid of These Seven Deadly Habits” at http://trueloverelationshipcoaching.com. Also, check out http://truelovesavemarriage.com.

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TODAY’S TIP: Be aware of the people around you. Notice that the ones that are respectful get the most respect.

Do you get the respect you deserve?

This week we will talk about respect. We will start today to talk about respect in its broadest sense. Then we will narrow it down to self.

Respect is one of those things, like love, which can only be expressed in relation to respect for self. We see many signs that many of us have lose respect for others. We see this in the rudeness that has become so much a part of some segments of our society.

I believe that one reason for this lost of respect is that we have lost the concept of sacredness. In the Divine sense, all of life and all of the Universe is sacred.

We are Divine beings having a physical experience and we bring the Divine into this physical world. However we have somehow become disconnected to our Divine self and have lost our way.

One of the major pillars of wellness is respect. Respect for all things, which begins with self. Everything begins with self.

You are the center of your Universe and you orchestrate the play which is your life. The more you are aware of the Divine and the Sacred, the more you are able to keep your respect for life and self alive.

What is self respect? It is treating yourself, others, and all that surrounds in ways that reflect the good of all. It is living your life so that it reflects the best that you can possibly be.

You still see people who smoke, even with all the information available that shows how smoking harms the body. This is not self respect. You see people who are rude by habit. This is not respecting the objects of the rudeness or of self.

We are all connected, so our actions to one is felt on some level by all and by self. Also, you get back what you give out. Therefore acts of rudeness and disrespect to others will come back as acts of rudeness and disrespect to you.

Self respect is intermingled with self esteem and self worth. These images of self come from a lifetime of being in this physical world.

You can raise the level of self respect as you come to grips with who you really are. You are a Divine being and as such deserve all the respect that is available and especially from you.

As in any other area of your life you can work on building your respect for life and for self. All it takes is effort, belief and faith.

TODAY’S TIP: Take a look in the mirror and ask yourself if you are doing everything you can to improve you, in all areas of your life. If not, you are disrespecting you.

How respectful are you?

We end this week with an article on how unconditional love can transform your life.

Unconditional Love – The Transforming Power of Unconditional Love By Alicia Isaacs

You’ve heard the words “I love you” so many times that it seems that the deep meaning of it has become superficial in its usage. But there’s love that is profound, constant and unconditional and it is from and out of this love that we have emerged. We’ve come from the heart of love and in remaining connected to the Source is where we find our life and sustenance.

Allow the fire of perfect love to radiate and burn within your inner being. Let it consume your soul, transform your mind and express itself through your body through focused thought and intention. It has always been there as a part of you and you begin to experience it when you are consciously aware of the connection to Love’s existence and turn full face towards Love in order to experience the warmth.

If this love is a part of us why then is it not more evidenced in our world? If you’ve ever observed an infant – they do everything instinctively. You don’t need to tell an infant when it’s time to begin to roll over or learn to crawl or walk. Neither do you have to educate them about love. They love you unconditionally. They quickly forgive and never hold a grudge. But as they continue to grow they’re reconditioned by society’s way of thinking, no longer the innocence of love – then they begin to adapt and lose the true essence of their original heritage.

We were all there at one point but have drawn away and/or moved away from living a life of true love. We’ve collected a lot of debris of judgment, anger, resentment, bitterness and unforgiveness that have blocked our communication with our Source of Love and have therefore stopped the flow of Love from entering our lives. We’ve now adapted to a superficial love that says, “I love you if you love me. I love you because you’re cute or I love you because you are rich, or because you make me feel so good inside.”

True love goes way beyond these conditions and says, “I love you because I love you and nothing can change that. I love you in spite of and not because of.” We have moved so far away from what is truth that the truth we embrace is so marred by the debris in our lives that when true unconditional love comes it’s hardly recognizable because we’ve grown used to the false identity and definition of love.

A call to return to love

It’s time that we return to the Source of Love that we may be transformed in the presence of Love and Love’s embrace.

How do you experience Love?

You experience this power because you desire it, you long for it, you summon it and Love comes to you. When you move away from it, you move away from the Source of the fire, the heat and passion of love and you begin to feel cold. Many people are cold. Some experience spurts of warmth but they never come close enough to experience the intensity and passion of Divine love. When you have, there is still much more to experience. When you come to that place where you remain in the intensity of love, you experience new levels of ecstasy you never thought possible.

Experience the Ultimate Love

It’s called the setting of yourself aside to surrender to and experience ultimate love. It satisfies, it thrills, it’s joy fulfillment, it’s deep inner peace. It’s the wanting or needing of nothing else – the satisfaction of your entire being.

Have you ever experienced a love so deep it burns to the core of your inner being? It’s like walking around with an inner campfire but never being consumed by it. It saturates your being to the point you need to take a deep breath so you can breathe or you ask for a second just so you can catch your breath? Come take a journey with me to the depths of your soul and experience the true flames of love.

Experience Love like you’ve never known, peace and joy in abundance and satisfaction unlimited. Once you’ve tasted, you’ll always desire to return, but why leave? You could remain there – you could live there and experience new levels of ecstasy in its purity.

To learn more simple doable step-by-step strategies, that will get you from where you are to where you want to be and experience a transformed life, I invite you to claim your free ebook Changing Inside Out Now! The Power of Unconditional Love and get access to regular life-changing strategies at http://www.changinginsideoutnow.com.

From Alicia Isaacs – Changing Inside Out Now!

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TODAY’S TIP: Do not give or accept anything less than the best life has to offer, unconditional love.

Will you love unconditionally?

Today, another interesting article about unconditional love.

Unconditional Love – Easier Said Than Done By Irene Conlan

It seems appropriate that in this week before Valentine’s Day we take a look at love and relationships. Loving and being love is, after all, what we all long for, isn’t it? Today I’d like to talk about “Unconditional Love” because we throw that term around so much.

The other day a friend of mind told me about her finace and how wonderful he is. “I love him unconditionally,” she effused, but later on in the conversation she listed some of the things he’ll need to change after they are married. Oops! That isn’t unconditional, is it?

The love we’re not talking about is best described by David Hawkins:

“What the world generally refers to as love is an intense emotional condition combining physical attraction, possessiveness, control, addiction. eroticism and novelty.It’s usually fragile and fluctuating, waxing and waning with varying conditions. When frustrated this emotion often reveals an underlying anger and dependency that it had masked. That love can turn to hate is a common perception, but here, an addictive sentimentality is likely what is being spoken about, rather than Love.There probably never was actual love in such a relationship for Hate stems from Pride, not Love.” (Power vs. Force, David R. Hawkins, Hay House, 2002, pp. 89-90)

Unconditional love is just that – unconditional. No conditions. No “I’d love you if only… ” In terms of romantic love it means I love you even if you throw your clothes on the floor or leave hair in the sink. It means I love you if you become ill or lose your job, get old or fat, become crabby or forgetful. I love you even if you’re no longer “arm candy” or I don’t agree with your politics. It means I love you if you snore, bite your nails, or have other annoying habits. It means I love you even if the thrill is gone and romance has gotten lost in the reality of paying bills, raising children, and being a participant in life. It means I’ve always got your back and I want only the best for you.

Few of us can love like that even though we say we do. We are human beings, each with our own agenda, abilities, likes and dislikes, personality, intelligence and emotions and, a lasting relationship require a mutual coming to terms with all of these.

Hawkins is talking about a level of consciousness, an energy level, a state of being, a love that doesn’t fluctuate and isn’t changed by circumstances. It is all inclusive and has no barriers – in fact it removes barriers. It “focuses on the goodness of life in all its expressions and augments that which is positive.” Unconditional love dissolves negativity and positively affects all around it. Hawkins states that only about.4% of the world’s population reaches this level and truly loves unconditionally.

When I love you unconditionally I look beyond the externals and see the essence of who you are. I see indescribable beauty there and I can declare, “Wow! What’s not to love.”

Irene Conlan has a masters degree in nursing, a doctoral degree in metaphysics, is a certified hypnotherapist and an ordained minister. She practices holistic hypnotherapy and officiates at weddings in Scottsdale, Az and the Phoenix metropolitan area. Irene can be found at http://www.theselfimprovementblog.com

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TODAY’S TIP: As with other things, practice makes perfect. Feel the love.

Does it get easier?

Today’s article is longer than normal but has some good food for thought.

What Does Unconditional Love Really Mean? By Roy Klienwachter

Unconditional love means unconditional freedom. Love and freedom are two of those words that are interchangeable. Freedom of choice is unconditional love-
unconditional freedom. Choice is another of those words that are interchangeable with Love and freedom.

For the most part, humanity understands little of what the word unconditional means. Unconditional means… “NO CONDITIONS.” This lack of understanding is what has divided man from man, and religion from religion throughout his sojourn in the physical reality. It is again man’s ego trying to grasp the idea, and not being able to surrender to its meaning. It appears to be the nature of humanity to always add conditions to unconditional-let me demonstrate.

The one common thread that I have found weaving through man’s many belief systems is that God is Unconditional Love. I have yet to have anyone tell me that this is not so, and it seems to be accepted by all belief systems that are centered on a creator. If you are in disagreement with this statement then there would probably be no sense in you reading any further.

Now it must be made clear in this example that unconditional means that there are no conditions to God’s Love. Do you understand and agree, that unconditional means no conditions apply?” Be sure because it gets more difficult to differentiate as we move along.

Do you understand that if there was a condition to God’s love, then God would be giving conditional love? Conditional love is not the same as unconditional love as described in the preceding paragraph. I have never heard or read anywhere that God gives conditional love, have you?

Love and freedom are the same; if there is a condition to freedom, then it is not unconditional. Freedom is given from unconditional love. Freedom of choice is the same thing as unconditional love-they are all the same thing. I know this is repetitive, but if you can follow this understanding, and accept it, then there is something further you need to understand.

The following concept is extremely difficult for most people to understand. Because love, freedom, and choice are unconditional, there can be no PUNISHMENT associated with them; once again-no punishments. Here is where the so called enlightened fall by the wayside. They cannot accept any of these things without the recourse to punishment. You can practice unconditional love, unconditional freedom, and unconditional choice with no punishments! God will never punish you! Retribution is a lie, it was all made up. Only Man will punish you. Anyone who tells you different, is not coming from unconditional love. They live in fear of you accepting these things. They do not understand what unconditional means.

Most all who have read the first half of this article will not have problems with it until they get to the “No Punishment” part. At this point man’s ego takes over, and will try to reason his way out of agreeing with the concept of unconditional. He will begin to say, yes I understand what unconditional means-but! Then he will start; you cannot have people running around doing whatever they want. There is a price (condition) for freedom. You can not freely love anyone you want, that is immoral (conditional). Our choices are limited by are colour, sexual orientation, creed, age, sex, and geographic region (conditional).

If you buy into these conditions, then you are in direct contradiction with what you may have agreed with when you started reading this article. If you didn’t agree to the first part, then you have read farther then you were supposed to. You were warned! For those who do not agree that God is unconditional love, and don’t understand the contradiction; let me explain. There seems to be a paradox here. Can unconditional love and conditional love exist at the same time? The answer is yes, because we have forgotten our heritage, we have moved away from unconditional. God gives unconditional love; man lives in conditional love!

This is where the contradiction comes from. We understand the love of God, and we feel inferior to it. We can not except that unconditional love is who we really are, and therefore apply conditions to our love and freedom. We project our human emotions and feelings onto God, effectively insulating ourselves from the reality of unconditional love. We attach certain conditions to his love. If we do not follow his will, we will be punished by him as we would punish those that would not do our will. Man’s love, freedom, and choice are conditional because we have always had freedom of choice, to choose and accept those conditions which are conditional. It is paradoxal and appropriate that humanity should set conditions for itself, in direct contradiction to what God represents, and expected from his creations-that life is free to live as it desires without limitation. It is the natural course of all living things to evolve to the next best version of itself, so the natural tendency is to survive, not destroy.

Who is it that is teaching us about conditional love? Who or what is actually separating us from the unconditional love of God? The clue has been in the Newspaper’s recently and has been manifesting itself for weeks. I’m in Canada, and it is August 08, 2003-the date I have written this article. For weeks now there has been a major controversy about legalized gay marriages. Who do you think is at the forefront of all the objections? Who is it that is using fear tactics to persuade politicians and supporters to change their policies? Who has come out, and said that they fear for the souls of those supporters?

They are the same profits that have for centuries, taught us of Gods conditional, unconditional love. They have taught us that God’s love is unconditional, and that it must be accepted as blind faith-and yet they have set down punishments for practicing unconditional-so in effect they have made unconditional, conditional. I don’t blame you if you are confused here; who wouldn’t be. They have used fear, punishment, and death to implant this lie into our belief systems. They have been as the false profit. The institute does not correctly reflect God’s love, nor do the profits and teachers-they don’t even come close to teaching it. Their interpretations reflect only their fear that they share with the rest of humanity.

As you reason these contradictions, listen to yourself. Are you coming from unconditional love, or are you reacting from fear? Whatever you now believe, you will have chosen it from unconditional love, because that is your true nature. It should be your reality. You have unconditional freedom to live conditionally, in conditional love without freedom of choice, if that is what you desire. There is no greater display of divine love.

At this moment try to imagine choosing to live unconditionally, try to choose between the two, conditional or unconditional. And if you chose the later, how would you condition yourself to accepting it.

Feel the unconditional love as you make a free choice. As you make the choice, you should notice that you are not being punished for it. That may come later, not from God, but from those who would denounce your choice, and who are living in the realm of conditionality. If nothing else, understand the contradiction. But also understand that who you really are is free. Do not fear for your soul, your soul can take care of itself, and of course that is exactly what it is doing. It is the BLIND FAITH (which is not surrender) that leads you into darkness, when you do not question it. Faith is never blind; it is an essential step in the process of knowing.

Not taking responsibility for your own salvation has given power to those who would use your vulnerability to keep you on the straight and narrow-not yours, but theirs.

The human ability to see black and call it white, is a real blessing in a world of contradictions that require us to make a choice, and believe nothing else. There is no one that is more blind than he who will not see. This has led us into the notion of right and wrong; you are wrong, I am right. We both cannot be right-right?

As you learn to accept the choices of others not being as your own, you will free yourself from the necessity of making judgments about them, and you will be practicing unconditional love. Your new found love for yourself and humanity will set you free. It will be another major step into expanding your enlightenment. To truly free humanity, mankind must see all aspects of itself as being free; as being created from absolute unconditional love. In the greater picture, all things are perfect as they are. It is not necessary to like someone as they are, but it is necessary to love them unconditionally as they are.

The bottom line is that you cannot live your life unconditionally because you live in a physical world that is conditional. However, it doesn’t stop you from experiencing unconditional love. Absolute unconditional love is the very nature of the creator-which you are-and it is only when you are focused on yourself as Creator that you will experience unconditional love.

(revised 03/2010)

Roy E. Klienwachter is an ordained minister, light worker, writer and author of Spiritual New Age Wisdom books written in simple language with the eloguence of Zen wisdom.

http://www.klienwachter.com

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TODAY’S TIP: Contemplate the subject of unconditional love.

Can you feel it?

This week will be devoted to love, more specific unconditional love. Most people that I know have a distorted view of love. There are many reasons why their views are distorted.

Throughout history those in power have manipulated the way people think to serve their own purpose. This manipulation has been done by those who controlled our biggest institutions; such as government, church, and education. Their sole purpose was to give themselves the power to control other peoples lives. You have probably heard the saying that power corrupts.

Can you imagine a world where people live in unconditional love? Who would be there to fight the wars? Who would be there to be used as slaves? Who would there be to give those in power the satisfaction of being able to play God in controlling the lives of the little people?

This conditioning goes deep into the DNA of the following generations. We are taught that love is conditional. Those conditions depend on the times and who is in power. Today many are taught they are supposed to love Jesus but can hate Muslims. We can love those who believe and act as we do, but it is OK to hate those who are different.

We are taught that love is supposed to make us happy. So we say that we love another as long as that person makes us happy. They make us happy by doing what we want them to do.

How many times have you heard someone say that they no longer love their spouse or they fell out of love. Did they ever really love in the first place? I suggest that they did not. True unconditional love cannot die.

I was once in a relationship with a woman who decided that she needed time to be alone. She told me that she wanted to not see me for a while and that included no phones calls or emails. I respected her wishes and did not try to contact her until she was ready. A couple of week later I get an email from her telling me that since I had not called or stopped by when I was in the area to ask how she was doing that I must not care about her and I probably wanted the relationship to end.

Is that what Love is all about? I think not, the fact that I loved her enough to be willing to allow her the space to do what she needed to do for herself made no impression what so ever. That is the way most of us love.

Unconditional love is loving without expectations and whether they give you what you want or not. It is being able to feel the same whether you are with that person or half way around the world and that person is with someone else.

Most of us have heard that we cannot love another more than we love ourselves. That is a big part of the problem. We don’t know how to love ourselves. We may even feel that we are not worthy of love because we have been conditioned to believe that.

This week I encourage you to think about what unconditional love means and cultivate the courage to live your life in unconditional love for everyone and all things.

TODAY’S TIP: Take a look in the mirror and ask yourself: Do you love the person looking back at you? Be honest.

Who do you love?

Today I present an article with tips on how to create a positive self image.

How to Create Positive Self Image By Zoltan Roth

Everyone who has seen an image of an anorexic girl looking into a mirror with a chubby girl staring back at her knows exactly what a distorted self-image is. But how many times does the image you perceive not accurately reflect the real you? While your body may not have the fun house mirror distortion, many times the mind or the character will. How you see yourself extends beyond the mere physical.

An Accurate Reflection

What is a true image of yourself? It means you perceive yourself as the rest of the world does. It also means that you must work to keep the image accurate. Sometimes if a person has grown up with negative things constantly being said to them, they repeat those things to themselves after they grow up. Make sure that the things you say to yourself, your self talk, and the things which you permit other people to say to you are accurate.

Talk to the Mirror

Have a conversation with that reflection staring back at you. Tell it all the good qualities it has. Remind it of all the accomplishments, large and small, that it has achieved. Encourage it with positive reinforcement. Acknowledge the flaws and describe ways to fix them. When you talk to yourself in that mirror the goal is to remove distortions and create a positive and accurate perception of yourself. Your goal is utter self-acceptance; even if you need to work on a few things, you have to accept yourself as you are before you can move forward.

Learn the Difference Between Constructive and Critical

Constructive criticism from other people is a great tool for learning more about yourself and identifying both your good and bad qualities. However, many people are prone to accept cynicism and critical words that are more reflective of the speaker than the person they are talking about. Do not let anyone speak to you or describe you in a manner that you know is not fair and accurate. If you would never utter those words to another person, then do not let anyone say them to you.

Grow Positively

When you have given yourself an accurate self image, develop it. Play on the positive characteristics which you have. The more you develop that which is good and strong, the less space and time there is for that which is negative or weak. If you are out volunteering or helping at your kids’ school that time can not be spent criticizing yourself for not giving to others.

Subtract the Negative

A person who has truly learned to look at themselves clearly will also remember that everyone has flaws. But rather than dwell on the flaws, the direction to take is to think of ways to reduce them. If you are aware of a flaw, such as impatience, remind yourself to stop for a moment every time you feel it well up inside you. Breathe deeply and try to exercise self control. The more practice you have, the easier it becomes.

Self Fulfilling Cycles

Your self image will surely improve as you focus more on developing what is positive and reducing what is negative. The practices feed on themselves, the more good thoughts and good deeds, the more you remind yourself that you truly are a good person. This includes doing good things for yourself. The fewer negative thoughts you have the less you will focus on things that do not positively motivate you. Make the effort to put a smile on your own face every day with the thoughts you have and the actions you make, and you will naturally form a healthy opinion of yourself!

Zoltan Roth is a native Hungarian teacher who resides in the United States. His passion is to help people around the globe to discover their enormous mental potential to create a happy, peaceful life we all deserve. For more information please visit his website at http://www.selfesteem2go.com.

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TODAY’S TIP: Look in the mirror each morning and decide if the person you see looking back at you is who you want to be.

Are you ready for change?

Everyone wants to be happy. Helping others is one way to make happiness a part of one’s life.

Happiness in Life – How to Help Others Find Happiness By Jason Osborn

t seems like everyone is concerned with their own happiness that one of the major keys to actually finding happiness gets overlooked. If you want to have happiness in your own life then it is important to help others find it as well. It’s amazing how much happiness you bring to yourself when you help bring it to others. Here are 3 keys to helping other people find happiness.

1. Inspire and motivate.

You know how good it feels when someone inspires and motivates you to be all that you can be in your life. This is one of the easiest things you can do for someone to help them find happiness in their life. Find ways to inspire and motivate people. Sometimes all it takes is a pat on the back and telling them that you believe in them.

2. Give freely of yourself.

Sometimes this is a hard thing to do but find ways that you can give of yourself. One of the easiest ways to so this is to join or participate in an organization of some kind. These are great because you don’t have to try to figure out how to give of yourself. All you do is show up and do what is needed. You never know what happiness you will bring to someone by just volunteering one hour or more a month of your time.

3. Be a living example of how it’s done.

The best way to help someone find happiness is to live a life full of happiness yourself. By doing so you will automatically show people that it is possible to live a life full of happiness. Not only that but you will be a living inspiration to countless people. Plus, since you know how to do it, you will have a much easier time teaching others how to succeed in living a happy life as well.

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TODAY’S TIP: Do not let a day go by without being of service to someone. It is truly rewarding.

Do you look for ways to be helpful?

When applying the Law of Attraction helping others will certainly help, but only if the motivation is pure. Here are some thoughts on that subject.

The Truth About Helping Others with the Law of Attraction By Beth Mccain

You might think that by helping others, it is helping you demonstrate how to apply the Law of Attraction through compassion and gratitude. This could be true (or not) depending on how you help others when you are intentionally applying the Law of Attraction.

The question is really: Why do you help others? Many people don’t give for the sake of giving. They sometimes have agendas attached to the ‘help’ and the giving. Agendas may include wanting to convince someone else that you are a ‘good’ person, giving so it will bring your LOA manifestation quicker through compassion and gratitude (this one’s the Hey Universe, look at me! ploy. The Universe is smarter than that!), showing another person that you are better than they are by giving, maybe you’re ashamed that you have money and give and help out of a sense of ‘money guilt’, and the list doesn’t stop here.

It is always wonderful to help and give to your fellow man; you don’t have to have a reason to do it. But the Universe knows the true reason you give and will return to you what and why you give through your feelings. You see, you can’t hide the true reason because it is your feelings that speak to the Universe, and you can’t hide your feelings. In effect, we ‘tell on ourselves’ to the Universe, and this is part of the Universal truth. And it is a good thing!

If you are giving out of ego, you will receive the same. If you are giving from shame, be prepared for more shaming experiences.

How you give is important, with or without the Law of Attraction. But we guarantee that no matter how you give, the Universe has your number and you will soon receive what you have given out with the intention you included with the help you gave.

Give for the sake of giving. Give from a caring and loving heart. Give minus the ego and the inflation of the physical self. If you give and you say to yourself, I’m so good. I helped and gave to another human being. Get a load of me! You are giving from the space of ego.

When you give of your time or your money with a caring and compassionate heart, you will be rewarded with care and compassion in your own life.

There is only one way to help another person and that is with an open heart and a feeling of joy because you are helping someone who needs help. The person you are helping is also you, if you think about it, because you are always a reflection of your inner thoughts.

Go out and do a wonderful deed for the sake of doing a wonderful deed and not because you expect anything in return (except for a smile and a thank you). And how you help will determine if you get a smile and a thank you back from the Universe.

Beth and Lee McCain are full time instructors and lecturers in applying the Law of Attraction, or better known as the Secret, in your life to attain whatever you desire. They have a great radio show on YouTube that is both entertaining as well as informative on the subject of the Law of Attraction. Please visit: Beth and Lee McCain Law of Attraction Web Site

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TODAY’S TIP: Look for ways of being of service in small ways wherever you go.

Do you have an open heart?