Do you love?

February 22nd, 2012 by admin

“Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence.” ~Eric Fromm

As the saying goes, everyone needs someone. In truth we are all connected but we live our lives in separation.One of the greatest gifts in life is to have someone to share our life with.

We look around us and it seems that it is a rare thing for someone to have a relationship that truly fulfills them. In our society over 50% of marriages end in divorce. Most people seem to float from one relationship to another without any idea of what it takes to have a successful one.

Many look at love as, “what can love do for me,” not “what can my love do for others.” We love others as long as they love us or as long as they make us feel good. Then when the relationship ends, more often than not, it ends in anger or lost of love.

We seem to have a very distorted view of love. We say, the love died. If the love was real it cannot die. Eric Fromm puts it best when he said, in his book “The Art of Loving,” ” a mother cannot love her child unless she loves all children” and ” a man cannot love a woman unless he loves all women.”

There is no casual love and family love and intimate love. There is only one love and it is the same for everyone. The only difference is the intensity of the energy of love that is shared between two people. If one truly loves, they love everyone and everything.

One of the reason we are on this planet is to learn unconditional love. Unconditional love means that we love regardless of what we get from it or what others are doing. Unconditional love means loving whether you are with them or not.

We may also need to look at relationships different. Our relationships are learning, growing experiences. All relationships are not meant to be until death do us part. At least not until you find that lifelong partner. You may have to go through more than one relationship to get to that one.

As long as we are learning and growing together the relationship works, when this is no longer the case it may be time to go our separate ways. This can be done with the love intact. We then become friends.

In the ultimate healthy lifestyle we realize that all our relationships, be they friendships, intimate or otherwise, are helping us grow and evolve. We realize that the most important aspect of our relationship and life itself is unconditional love for others, ourselves and the universe.

In the ultimate healthy lifestyle we know that we can release relationships when they no longer serve us with love and respect for the other. We realize that to do so is the loving thing to do and that we grow stronger.

Tomorrow we will talk about ways to get the most out of a relationship and make it work for the good of all concerned.

TODAY’S TIP: Do not be afraid to use the word love. Tell those you care about that you love them.This will add to their life and yours.

Do you understand love?