Do you love or do you not?

March 15th, 2010 by admin

“Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence.” ~Eric Fromm

Many people treat love as if it were a dirty word. I think this is because few of us really know what love means. When we think of it, we think of the, What’s in it for me type of love.

Most of us live a kind of convenient and conditional type of love, if you can indeed call it love. It is certainly not the pure unconditional love that we are meant to learn in this physical world.

We love as long as the object of our love loves us, or makes us feel good. We love as long as we get a payoff. This type of love is conditional, but can it really be called love?

I was once talking to a friend about love and money. He said that it is true that money cannot buy you love, but it can buy you such a close imitation of love that you will never know the difference, until the money runs out.

That is the type of love that most of us experience. That is one reason that our divorce rate is so high. We go into marriage with distorted images of what love is all about.

I believe that we are here to learn to love unconditionally. This is the love that Jesus tried to teach the world. It is only when we get to the place where we can love others without expectations or conditions that we will truly be able to experience life in its fullest.

Love is the highest vibrations available to us. You ever noticed how light you feel when you are feeling love. It can be like you are floating on a cloud. This is true happiness.

We hear talk about the different types of love. We have parental love, intimate love, casual love, and friendly love. This only adds to the confusion.

There is only one kind of love. Love is and the only thing that differentiates between the love for a spouse and the love of a friend is the intensity of the energy that is exchanged.

As Eric Fromm wrote in his book, “The Art of Loving,” in order for a man to love a woman he must love all women and in order for a mother to love her child she must love all children.

We hear people say, after divorce, that the love died. If it were truly love it cannot die. You can love someone without being with them. Part of the problem is the way we look at marriage and relationships.

Marriage vows used to say, Until death do us part. Even though many modern marriages no longer include that phrase, it is still conditioned into our minds.

All relationships, including marriage are supposed to be learning and growing experiences. They are good as long as the people in the relationship add to each other and help each other learn and grow. When that is no longer the case it may be time for the relationship to end.

However, it should end with knowing that it served its purpose and the love should be intact. People should part company still friends and still loving each other.

TODAY’S TIP: Meditate and contemplate on the true meaning of love. Set you intent to live in unconditional love.

What type is your love?